Should I be embarrassed?

My spouse has accused me of being "mentally seriously sick." 

Here's my question:  Am I sick because I refuse to play the cover-up game?  Or because I insist on playing the role of a messenger delivering a message that detracts from the painted illusion of perfection?  

I may look Asian, however, I am quite westernized in my upbringing and beliefs, courtesy of a progressive mother who studied International Law in Viet Nam, planned and executed our escape from a Communist regime [under whom she lost many loved ones to concentration / rehabilitation / labor camps, and our three homes and businesses], re-established her life in America where she worked tirelessly to provide for all three of her children while she studied to become an Electronics and Computer Technician. 

Having been nurtured in the westernized way and living in the United States, I've come to accept the fact that who my spouse is and what he does or doesn't do hardly reflect on who I am and what my values are.  Am I embarrassed and should I try to save face?  I feel neither embarrassments nor the need to cover up the "dirty laundry" of my marital relationship.  It does not reflect badly on me if the person I'm with was not raised with morals, honor, integrity, honesty, and self-respect, given that I was naive when entering into this relationship and got myself duped.

So, lessons learned yet I will hold fast to the one firm rule on which I have been conducting my life and basing my interactions with others:  I believe honesty is at the cornerstone of every relationship, whether it's business or personal.  Our reputation [and credibility] precedes us and is bolstered or negated by our decisions and actions in our personal and professional lives.  When our decisions and actions don't match our words, we're just another hypocrite waiting to be exposed.  When we have too many masks to juggle, too many lies to remember, too many people to manipulate, too many bank accounts to transfer in to, out of, hide, ... sooner or later, all these hypocritical acts will slip up and the world catches a glimpse of the real us.  Better off if we put a little more effort into accepting, developing, authenticating, and living with our real self [or many aspects of our self] from the very beginning rather than grasping after an image of us that will never be.