Like most every other messes, this one began with my voidable spouse sending a text message that was meant for "Annie" to my emotionally precocious fourteen-year-old son. Naturally, my son texted his father back and asked which Annie this is, and in response to my son's question, my voidable spouse augmented his clarifying text with a verbal statement in a phone conversation with my son claiming that—and I have an audio record of this dialog—Annie Chin is his business associate and because she lacked the right business tool[s] to conduct business, he decided to equip her with an iPad II, paid for from the extra money in reserve we supposedly had in 2010 leading into 2011.
Now I always monitor my son's text and email messages—with his full knowledge and permission, and tape record all of his conversations / dialogs between him and my voidable spouse, given the latter's penchant for lying and "convenient forgetfulness." My immediate response, via text through my son's phone is captured below and begins with "In 2010 you said we had money to spare ..."
My other response:
My voidable spouse's response, which occurred on Sunday, 24th March? By almost showing my son an iPad while tried telling him that it's the same iPad as the one he had purchased and shipped to his paramour in 2011—in effect, contradicting his previous verbal statement that he had purchased and equipped Annie Chin, his business associate with an iPad II—only stopping short once he learned that my son has his recorder on. Then, it became a one-way shouting match at my son, ending with the fourteen-year-old being dropped off at the house one hour after he was picked up for a weekly father-son time.
Here's something to ponder: Why such fear at being recorded by your own child—and for the child's protection no less—unless you intended to spout untruths, falsehoods, and promises you have no intention of fulfilling? I shall conclude then that this whole excuse of Annie Chin being his business associate and needing a tool to transact business was just an on-the-spur-of-the-moment, not-very-artful fabrication; another convenient lie was that soon uprooted and replaced by yet another lie of "I bought the iPad for myself" ... So, he bought the iPad II in 2011 and hid it from us, his family, for almost three years?! Assuming this lie is the truth, that is ... The barely believable lie of "Annie Chin the business associate for whom I bought an iPad II because she lacked resources to do business" never happened, was never verbalized nor told to my son, or so my voidable spouse thinks because he never thought that he was being recorded, and thus can turn around to deny and twist everything, including a fourteen-year-old's words and eyewitness account.
What is the truth, then?
Other lingering questions floating through my mind: The iPad I came out in April 2010; I wonder if my voidable spouse purchased one back then and kept that from us too, like the one he bought in 2011 and mailed to his "paramour-disguised-as-business-associate"; how many iPads were purchased and in his possession to enable his lies; and what happened to the profits that should have been generated by their business that was partly funded by our spared money? In an overseas account under her name, perhaps? Along with the monies she earned by reselling all the hair, skin care products and vitamins my voidable spouse had bought [again with our money] at the PBX in AAFES and brought back on his trips to visit his parents [and her] during 2011 and 2012? [It truly sickens me to suspect that I had been used to try on shoes to determine sizes and fitting so that my voidable spouse could shop the right Crocs for Annie Chin under the pretense of buying shoes for his mother.]
This is one human being—and am assuming plentiful here—who has lied too much, he has forgotten the truth.
