Why I filed for nullification of marriage instead of divorce

Because my marriage is based on fraud.

I entered into it without knowing vital facts that were concealed by my voidable spouse.  Had I known these facts, I would have not entered into the marriage, nor remained in it for these last 16 years.  

My voidable spouse lied about the reasons why he wanted to entered into a marriage with me:  He fell in love with me, wanted to marry me so we can start a family he had always wanted.  Naive that I was, I had no reason to question his said motives until I came by documents that caused me to believe differently.  These records were discovered during my cleanup of the garage, the spare bedroom that my spouse occasionally used, and his workspace during the last few months of 2012 when my voidable spouse went on a trip to visit his parents and lover in Taiwan.  

These documents showed my spouse not only set up a sham marriage, but lied about his family background, motives and intentions as to why he wanted to have a family:  so that he can use me and our son—with little care for our well-being and future—as his hostages in order to remain in the United States to secure his permanent residency and / or citizenship.

The timeline of my marriage:  I met my voidable spouse in February 1996; we eloped and married on 21st June 1996.

Some of the documents:  

 


































a)  A letter, dated 17th May 1995, from the chairman of the Department of Economics at the University of Oklahoma stating that spouse's student visa had expired.

 


































b)  Academic transcript from the University of Oklahoma showing four (4) Incompletes for the Spring 1995 term of 12-credit-hours, followed by Fall 1995 term of 6-credit-hours, which is 3 credit hours short of the 9-credit-hours full-time enrollment that F-1 Visa graduate students must maintain.  Failing to maintain F-1 status equals out-of-status, which usually leads to deportation from the US. 

c)  A letter, dated 26th August 1997, from Member Service Administrators with his University of Oklahoma student health insurance identification cards, which listed his status as Single.  My spouse and I met in February 1996 and eloped and married on 21st June 1996.  It would have been courteous of him—if not the right action to take—to advise me of his intention to retain his Single status on his health insurance, and therefore, for me to keep my then-job with its full benefits.  Is this an action of an individual who claimed to be ready for and to want the responsibilities of marriage and family?

 


































d)  A letter, dated 8th January 1996, from American Express to acknowledge and to advise of processing for a request from my spouse to add his live-in girlfriend Ming-Jung Li as an additional user on his American Express account; a statement for the period of 1st February 1997 showing billing itemization for my spouse, myself, and Ming-Jung Li.  Again, is this an action of an individual who claimed to be ready for and to want the responsibilities of marriage and family?

 


































e)  An email printout, dated 8th April 1997, showing spouse subscribing to an online Taiwanese matchmaking service via his University of Oklahoma email.  So much for love, marriage, and the marital vows.

 


































f)  A letter from MidFirst Bank, dated 21st June 1999, per spouse's request and to be included in his INS / USCIS application for permanent residency, stated that spouse and myself have been account holders since 1993.  This is a false statement of a material fact—a fact my voidable spouse knows to be untrue since we met in February 1996 and eloped and married on 21st June of the same year.  This is an act of document forgery.

g)  Receipts, dated 4th March, 17th April, and 18th April 2007 and amounting to $1,591.75 to Blue Moon Cabaret.  These visits were two months short of the marriage's first anniversary.  Again, is this an action of an individual who claimed to be ready for and to want the responsibilities of marriage and family?

h)  My voidable spouse lied about his parents' backgrounds.  I was proudly informed by my voidable spouse before and during the marriage that my father-in-law worked and retired as a Taiwanese government officer, who merited his own chauffeur to bring him to and back from work—one reason why my father-in-law did not drive; naturally, I believed my voidable spouse, although there were times when I seriously questioned his stated background given the lifestyle choices he made.  Not until November 2012 while cleaning up the garage did I stumbled across a copy of my voidable spouse's birth certificate whose English translation stated that my father-in-law's occupation was that of a laborer.  Furthermore, it indicated that both of my parents-in-law are of Mainland Chinese origin; only my voidable spouse was born in Taiwan.  This is a huge and shocking surprise to me as my voidable spouse has always verbally and loudly maintained his pure Taiwanese heritage, while looking and talking down on Mainland Chinese as an inferior race.  Had I known otherwise, I would not have entered into the marriage nor have a family with him.

 


































i)  My voidable spouse concealed his lack of a work permit while he operated an international students recruiting business; my voidable spouse was in the United States with an F-1 graduate student visa and did not apply for a work permit until 12th August 1996, which was granted and remained valid between 13th May 1999 and 12th May 2000.  Had I been made aware of this fact, I would not have willingly helped him with his business nor provided a shield—via marriage—for him in violating the law.