Thursday, August 20, 2015

In The Best Interest of The Child? A teenager's view


Phandeluys' son shared another essay ... I read it last night, hesitated about reposting it here but ultimately, I think his voice needs to be heard.

My mom hates talking about The Jerk and the court case but if I asked anything about him and what is going on, she is always honest with me in describing the facts of a situation without burdening me with her feelings and emotions. Sometimes I wish she would so I can feel and understand what it is that she goes through. I hate being in the dark when I know something is up and about and around and everyone is sidestepping. It makes me anxious, and leaves me vulnerable and unprepared to deal with whatever that is going to happen. I do not care what the experts, including the court and children protective service, say about the "best interest of the child." That concept sounds so nice and warm but in reality is fuzzy and icky as a ball of cat hair.

So, what exactly is in the "best interest of the child?" Let me count the ways:

1. Not allowing child to testify to acts of mental, emotional and physical abuse against him from a person the court has seen fit to assign as the child's "guardian" because these acts occurred more than two years ago. When did patterns of abuse become irrelevant to potential future behavior? If there has not been any act of abuse in the last two years, it is because child has refused all interactions, including visitation and possession, with his abuser since the latter abandoned him in a department store for more than an hour on a shopping trip. Just because a thief lacked the opportunity to steal does not mean he will not when given the chance. So I am supposed to give my abuser a chance to hurt me behind close doors and away from prying eyes under the guise of "Asian way of disciplining" because my abuser got on the stand and lied about how much he misses and loves me and how much he wants a "second chance" to prove his caring devotion to me.

Hm, thanks, but no thank you. I know my abuser first hand and through having been a witness to his abusive words and acts against my mother, no one, including the "impartial" court is going to make me doubt my own eyes and ears and the physical pains I had suffered through to give this jerk another chance to "bond" with me. I refuse to be nice and to take things lying down. At the minimum, I am going to give back as good as I get, then face the system that has blatantly ignored my safety issues and handed me over to my abuser.

I will republish the rest of his essay in the posts to follow, so

Stay tune.

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About this blog 

Excepting this introduction and what are—and will be—posted after March 2015, this blog mirrored a now out-of-commission blog, http://ya-chang-lin.blogspot.com, which was taken down on October 21, 2013 by its author Phandeluys Truong. 

The author's original contents and supporting documents were captured by multiple means from the above-mentioned blog while it was alive and active. There may have been a glitch here and there that prevented me from downloading the complete blog as it had existed. Thus, readers familiar with the original blog may find a few missing posts and/or comments. Those postings that I was able to grab and preserve in their entirety are reposted here under my name, however, all rights remain that of the original author. 

This series of posts documents the fraudulent, sometimes criminal, and frequent unethical/immoral activities of Ya-Chang Robert Lin, a Taiwanese native of mainland Chinese parentage, who defrauded a naturalized US citizen, Phandeluys Truong, into a marriage that had been his shield against USCIS for his intentional violations of immigration law: 

as a nonimmigrant F-1 student, he had willfully operated an international students recruiting business without prior work authorization from the then United States Immigration and Naturalization Service; 

as President of said business, he had knowingly helped both mainland Chinese and Taiwanese students to evade military drafts in their countries by facilitating their applications to study in the US and abroad; 

as President of said business, he had knowingly helped both mainland Chinese and Taiwanese students looking to enter the United States with the intention of gaining permanent US resident status under the pretense of studying; 

as President of said business, he had purposely evaded paying taxes on the commissions received from it and failed to report the earned income to the IRS by having the payments wired back to Taiwan to his mother Chang Hsueh; 

he had applied for reinstatement of his F-1 or student status and a change of status, while knowingly withheld the preceding facts on his own applications for permanent resident and citizenship in the United States. 

And those are just the tip of the iceberg. Ya-Chang Robert Lin had been employed at AAFES or The Exchange headquarter in Dallas, Texas as an information technology auditor, where he managed to steal—by downloading to CDs that he kept in his personal possession while abiding for time and opportunities to "do business" in Taiwan and/or China—thousands of his colleagues’ Social Security numbers and personnel files while working on one of its HR projects. The HR data on one of these projects became the basis for an academic paper, speaking proposal for ISACA, and a consulting business he was "collaborating with " [more like conning other people into developing and fronting for him]. 

Ya-Chang Robert Lin is a reprobate with a seared conscience. Lacking normal capacity for empathy, remorse, and reciprocation of good will, he is addicted to lying, cheating, and stealing for the pure pleasures derived from being able to get away with it. Because he is such a good liar—so charming and well versed in manipulation techniques and acting skills—it is hard to distinguish him from reprobates. 

Ya-Chang Robert Lin was able to dupe some of the smart people in federal government, higher education, and information technology auditing and security. Among his legacy: A son who refused any connection with him and wished that he were dead.

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