My voidable spouse almost had me convinced that I was to blamed for the demise of the international students recruiting business he and his then-girlfriend had run. Deep inside I knew I did not do anything wrong but I lacked documented proofs against his insistent verbal blames. Until now.
And Ching Shan Counseling Co. was not the only one cheated out of their commissions.
Goes to show old habits died a difficult death or in your voidable spouse's case, not at all; they're simply lying in wait for the next opportunity. The counselors weren't the only ones deprived of their earnings, the IRS and you were also. And you, my friend, got the worse of the lot.
ReplyDeleteHere is the irony: For a duration of time I was willing to quietly bear my voidable spouse's knowingly false accusation of me having destroyed the international students recruiting business for the sake of family cohesion and harmony ... until I was broached by both my mother and brother, on two separate occasions, about why and how I single-handedly ended the business. They both were told different versions of the story but the gist was the same, that I was responsible for axing the business. Naturally, they had their doubts and wanted to confirm what my voidable spouse had related in my absence ... Yet, I still gave my voidable spouse the benefits of my doubts when I questioned him and he told me that both my mother and brother must have misunderstood him.
DeleteVery convenient that both your mother and brother misunderstood him. Was it because he didn't speak English well enough to cover his lies or was this just one among many excuses he pulled from his mad-hatter's hat? He should have quit when he had you firmly deluded and in his grip. Consider yourself lucky as you're still young and thriving by the time you get our from under this chaos.
DeleteI don't know about being "young and thriving" when coming out of the end of this particular tunnel but it can't hurt to give everything my all plus a little bit more so there will not be any regrets ... I just take exception to the fact of having 16 years of my life stolen from me by a Chinese / Taiwanese lowborn and lowlife. [Unlike what some people may think about me because they assume they know me, it is not the lowborn status that knocked out the balance and equilibrium of my inner sanctum. There is nothing inherently wrong about being born poor if that disadvantage empowers people to be hard-working, self-sufficient, disciplined, adaptable, responsible, practical, compassionate, and to value the same in others as they strive toward their successful place in life; but when a poor or lower socioeconomic status serves merely as an excuse and / or justification to deceive, manipulate and hurt others in order to get what they want at others' expense ... that's when lowborn degrades into lowlife.] It's been difficult for me to come to grip with the fact that this person, with his predatory behavior, phony persona and impression management skill, was raised by a school teacher ... I am still trying to come to terms with that, hopefully with some last remnants of respect for those so-called elementary school teachers in Asian countries.
DeleteI can totally feel your "dislike" of "those so-called elementary school teachers in Asian countries." Have personally met several myself, all with fake moralistic stance that they proudly wear as a badge of honor and tried drilling those righteous precepts into their students. Most don't even have a high school diploma, yet they teach middle schoolers, and even other high schoolers themselves. It's nauseating ... a really f-up system. Your voidable spouse is just such a "model" teacher ... someday I will explain to you what that photo of her graduation day is. You'd be shocked what lowlife (your definition) of a family you'd been tricked into marrying. Hah hah hah, but I got the last word in before this English blog dies and takes on its many other linguistical incarnations ...
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