My father-in-law's savings ...

Before heading out for my meeting with the agencies, I would like to understand how my father-in-law, who worked as a laborer all his life, managed to "save" $38K back in 1995.  Perhaps, all those stories my spouse had jokingly told me about him being a "runner" to retrieve bribery money for the old man are true?

Scholarship material?

Just when I think nothing can shock me about this person that I'm married to ... Should have believed him when he told me the story of how to put my father-in-law to sleep—by asking the man to read a page in a book; back then I thought my spouse was joking.  It took my spouse five trials to pass the TOEFL—the fruit does not fall far from the tree.

My spouse, the entrepreneur ...

Had I known the types of business my spouse favors [nightclubs, ballroom dancing, and the various forms of entertainment], and the methods by which he acquires them, I'd run in the opposite direction—away from him.

My spouse, the cheater and the user [and not the devoted and hard-working man he wants others to believe he is]

Not that I minded; what is good for the gander is good for the goose.  No need to play the game of hypocrisy to "save face."

Trust my spouse to be "in charge" of financial matters?

If and when the water and other utilities are turned off, it will not be for the first time.  We've gone through the stage where I know the first name of the electric man who posted Disconnection Notice on the front door knob—that's how I know to call my spouse to "remind" him to pay the electric bills.  [Even our son knows this man by sight.]

The intention was apparent even then

My spouse and I met in February 1996 and eloped in June of the same year.  It would have been courteous of him—if not the right action to take—to advise me of his intention to retain his Single status on his health insurance, and therefore, for me to keep my then-job with its full benefits instead of unknowingly went without health insurance.

What human being would willingly do such a thing to someone they claimed to love?

My spouse's other "lives"

One of my spouse's other "lives."  

Why such elaborate ruse to set up rules that one has no intention to obey, forcing one to resort to lies and other sneaky tactics to cover up?

For "safekeeping"—against what or whom?

From my spouse to yours truly for "safekeeping."  All files in .edi format.  Don't know what they are; don't care what they are.  And given the chances that the files may have been acquired illegally, the CD was handed over to the authorities.

Quid pro quo? I think not

Dec 28 4:25 PM
12146367393:Text me the time window front door will be opened. I have your check made.

Dec 28 4:27 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Why? So you can come back here to threaten D and me again? No, thanks. We like our peace and quiet here just fine.

Dec 28 4:59 PM
12146367393:So, when and how can I get back to my house and my bed?

Dec 28 5:08 PM
12146367393:locksmith every{time}?

Dec 28 5:16 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:When can you commit to not threatening—physically, verbally, financially, psychologically—D and me? When can you purchase a new unopened bolt for the front door lock that you damaged—I will replace it myself. We thought you like staying out there with your cohorts—we like the fact of you liking to stay out there, too—it made for a real quiet home-life. About your bed—it's the sofa or your parents' room. With your year-end bonus and multiple gigs, surely, locksmith is an expense you can afford—just like International Priority shipping of $100 for an $85 gift e-book to Annie Chin. [And you don't even want to spend that much on your own parents; I guess she must be "unique" and "relevant" {useful} to your next stage in life.]

Dec 28 5:20 PM
12146367393:I just don't like pay two locations ... actually can not afford. You are the one make all the threats.

Dec 28 5:26 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:No threats. I just recently—within the last three months—discovered {what} this marriage is all about and who / what the hell am married to, and I'll be damned if I don't share with the whole world out there. I want to shout-out every time I stumbled into something previously hidden—and not for the better—from me about you and yours.

Dec 28 5:30 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I had always emphasized self-honesty and honesty with others in relationships. I don't mind that a person I know is a cheater, just don't pretend to be an honest and moralistic person otherwise. I sure can take a cheater any day over a hypocrite and a user. And that is what you and yours have been with me during the last 16 years.

Dec 28 6:22 PM
12146367393:Just because you found small piece of puzzle, doesn't mean you know the whole picture. Just because I {am} silent about your claims, doesn't mean I agree with you nor you are right either. You don't trust is simply who you are and how your family see marriage. This marriage you want me to take the fault, I am saving my breath.

Dec 28 6:26 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Yup, just let the documents and evidences, in conjunction with the timeline, tell their pieces of the story. That's all anyone can ask.

Dec 28 6:29 PM
12146367393:Since you have so much time, probably you can also show what kind of wife you have been.

Dec 28 6:41 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Am on the Internet for purposes of job skills enhancement and job search. Do you think I like being stuck in this hell-hole you and your parents called a "home"—more like a big empty shell-of-a-house for "storing" your money than a real home with emotional, psychological, financial comforts, safety, security, and enjoyment. You think D and I like your always-hovering {verbal} harassment {of calling us} "freeloaders" and threats of financial strangleholds? Get real! If it wasn't for me in writing your essays for AAFES HR questionnaire [via fax], am not so sure you would have gotten this current job that you have, nor the promotions that followed. [Oh, and yes, I do have proofs of those—of what I just wrote.] Same thing with Stella, with whom you fucked up with your blatant insults because you thought you had landed the ultimate in clientele—Lina {whom you claimed—and I have your words on audio—will willingly trade in both her husband and her top-of-the-line automobile—a Mercedes, or a Bentley, or a BMW—if you would take her on as your ballroom partner and competitive trainee}. Am the one who got Stella to come back to our group class and the private sessions {I have both your texted message asking for my help in getting Stella back, along with the heartfelt letter I penned to Stella} only to have you steal my half of the fees. History repeats itself, huh, just like with the language schools.

Dec 28 6:43 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Like I said, the kind of wife any [hygienic] male man enough to want, can afford to keep, and confident enough to partner with.

Dec 28 6:50 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:It's not because I cannot be a "playgirl"—it's because you'd already casted me in the role of a mother and a helpmeet for these last 14-16 years. And now, when it's no longer convenient for you to play the "family man" and you want your freedom and your version of the "American Dream," am expected to drop my responsibility as a mother and business professional to accommodate you? Go find your bimbo some place else.

Dec 28 6:53 PM
12146367393:Stay in the 2500 sq ft new house in {F}lower {M}ound with all bills paid and kick the owner out to the street. And you still are complaining? Yup, that is you.

Dec 28 6:54 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Am not raising another irresponsible hypocrite and {shameless} manipulative user like your parents did with you.

Dec 28 6:55 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Yes, I will kick you and whoever out if you and whoever threaten the emotional, psychological, and developmental safety of my child.

Dec 28 6:58 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Am a citizen of the world first, then a mother, and I take both of those roles very seriously, so don't fuck with my values and {with} my child.

Dec 28 6:58 PM
12146367393:Sub zero temperature again, obviously you don't care how I am. Yup, that is you.

Dec 28 7:02 PM
12146367393:Every dollar I wasted outside of house could spent at D future, however, its cold and I am hungry. After all, you caused it.

Dec 28 7:03 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I should care about you when you threaten us? Are you kidding me? You should {be} happy I didn't hand over the video of you sabotaging the front door lock of the house to the authorities, along with your threat to leave both D and me in the freezing cold—it took me almost 40 minutes to calm D down with logical thinking and worst-case scenarios {explications}. Great father and husband you are.

Dec 28 7:07 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Go find your bimbo and the single lifestyle you thought you wanted. Without D and me, am sure you avail yourself of all kinds of sensory pleasures out there; are you so quick to be satiated or you're fearing the possible fallout to yourself and yours? If you can act, you can abide by the consequences.

Dec 28 7:15 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Every dollar ... goes to D and his future. Hm, is that why you took away his $60 every month allowance that I wrote into the contract that you had agreed to and signed—because it went into D's future spending? Even D's savings account is seeded by my mother's money. Then and after several more pleadings from me did you begin depositing $75 from your paycheck. So, what was it that you were saying about every dollar saved for D ... ?

Dec 28 7:25 PM
12146367393:The authority already said you have no right to change the lock. and I can call the locksmith or take down the door if I want to.

Dec 28 7:28 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Do so if and when you feel the need. D also has the right to feel secure, safe, and happy in his domicile—that is one thing I will enforce at all cost.

Dec 28 7:31 PM
12146367393:D said you are the one direct him to said things he didn't mean to. And, he loves me.

Dec 28 7:33 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Verify with D again. He's much smarter, more perceptive and intuitive than what you're crediting him with. Over these past three months, he's seen too many things about you and yours to be blindsided by your emotional manipulations and sentimental appeals.

Dec 28 7:38 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:And no, I did not purposely show things to D to badmouth you and yours. D has a way of finding out about things when he sees me so upset and depressed, sometimes all at once.

Dec 28 8:06 PM
12146367393:No conversation, just sleep and access to my area, can I get in the house tonight to sleep or not?

Anger-management course, anyone?

I guess the anger-management course that the court ordered for spousal assault / abuse back in 2006 and 2007 had little positive effect on my spouse's thinking and behavior.  And not because an old dog cannot learn new tricks; he does, but only tricks that he can use against me, to cover his own track, and to better deceive people. 

Like the digital forensics [in which one learned to search for and obtain electronic evidence], interrogation techniques, internal investigations, and investigating fraud seminars and / or workshops he had attended, courtesy of his on-the-job training. 

Would it surprise you, readers, that I was the one to encourage him to sign up for these courses in the first place?  Never occurred to me that such learning would be used against me in various nefarious schemes.  

Yes, am aware that my spouse can [and will] deny his role in intentionally damaging the lock on our front door.  That is why I had engaged our neighbors' vigilance in looking out for the safety of me and my son whenever they notice my spouse is at the house.  In this specific instance, we're lucky that one of our neighbors had a video capture of my spouse doing what he will most surely disavow.  

Have we yet unmasked the "real face" behind all those masks?

Dec 28 7:53 AM
12146367393:You might want to take care the water bill today. Since you lock me out for a while now, this is your minimum share of bill as I am still paying all other bills for now. Since I am forced by you to stay outside, I have other expense to covered.

Dec 28 10:58 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I've notified the agency; they're waiting to see when the utilities are cut off so they can file the motions. Thanks for taking the first irretrievable action that will cause your ultimate downfall.

Dec 28 10:59 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:It's called economic abuse--that's what all the agencies agreed on in labeling your action toward a spouse who hasn't worked in the {field} for the past 16 years, along with a 14-year-old child.

Dec 28 11:01 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Your action has really made my day; I'm dizzy with happiness and giddiness instead of flu-like headaches. Thanks!

Dec 28 11:09 AM
12146367393:You haven't worked for home? Since we can not afford all the luxury, internet will not be needed. We need to use money from that to pay for my extra expense while I got lock out by you. All extra expense are caused by you, check the economic abuse definition again, will you .

Dec 28 11:13 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Review your contracts again, jerk. Or do you intend to breach all the services you agreed to provide for the family you claimed to want and love? You threatened D with your promise to leave him and his mother in the freezing cold [which, by the way, D sent a text to his contact at the agency], then you're bitching about why you're locked out? Threatening and disrupting the peace inside our home, then wanting your way in just because you pay the bills? Get real, dickhead.

Dec 28 11:16 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Take any actions you want; with your surveillance by the agencies and your historical spending patterns since 1989 [not 1992], the people who need to know in order to decide the cases are just biding their time with your missteps and threats.

Dec 28 11:19 AM
12146367393:The only person slept in the freezing parking lot overnight is me. I was lock out from the his house by my wife. All extra expense is caused by you.

Dec 28 11:22 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Good luck proving that in court and with the agencies when you yourself were absent both Christmas Eve and Day--we are supposed to believe you slept in your car out in the cold on those nights, too? The agents just {kind} of smile and snicker when I reported that to them ... Think anyone will believe you after seeing your records of whatever? Go figure ...

Dec 28 11:28 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Like I said before when I discovered all the things you kept hidden from me about you and yours: For using me and bringing D into whatever you and your family's involved in, you and yours [if that means your aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews and nieces] are going down. I don't fear hard work; actually my reps think I worked a lot harder and so much more than a person who's employed outside the home with a 40-hours-a-week job, yet without pay and benefits.

Dec 28 11:32 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:That, my dear husband, is also called economic enslavement, another crime against you.

Dec 28 11:35 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:There's also another one against you for derailing my future—remember at the time I met and married you, I had a job as management trainee in a promising upstart company, along with having been nominated for the Governor's Board for Economic Development, while being a member of the Governor's Advisory Council on Asian-American Affairs ... among several other achievements that were shelved per your insistence that I refocus more of my time and talents toward developing and finishing your projects.

 

  

While studying Criminal Justice and Digital Forensics ...

Dec 28 11:47 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Also, review your definition of economic abuse and economic enslavement, as defined by the justice department, and not through Wikipedia. In deciding who committed the crime, two elements must be proven: motive and mean; guess who has both in this 16-year marriage for convenience? The DoJ [Department of Justice] does not have statutes of limitation, unlike some other agencies, so, what have you been doing since you arrived here in the States back in 1989?

Dec 28 11:52 AM
12146367393:Yup, your action of locking me out have a cost we both are paying. You are sleeping comfortably at the house I have been paying, I deserve decent living too.

Dec 28 11:53 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Yes, that's civil and within my rights as a spouse who fears for herself and her child due to the actions of her husband and his past and current conducts. Time to find yourself a lawyer to whom you can out the whole truth. Be careful, though, of the "truth" you tell because we have documents and supporting evidences that might force both you and your attorney to eat crows in court. That's a potential problem when one weaves too many lies and can longer distinguish the real and the factual versus the fantasies and the lies. 

Another day in this "charming" and "enviable" life with a jerk

wordmyth (Dec 26 1:17 PM): You will need to take care of D this weekend or until I get better, health wise; by being with D almost twenty-four hours every day during his holiday break from school, am exhausted and have caught whatever it is D suffers from. I still have today's and tomorrow's appointments [at the house and at the station] to keep; these were made in the weeks prior to the break so there is zero chance of deferring them to another day per the authorities' and my schedules.

wordmyth (Dec 26 3:58 PM):‎ When can D expect his food from Genroku? He may be sleeping now but he'll be awakening in two to three hours max with an appetite.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 4:09 PM):‎ I will bring those food around 9:30pm. Please give him something before then.

wordmyth (Dec 26 4:13 PM):‎ He doesn't want anything except hot tea to soothe his pains. You cannot cancel your classes so his food must wait until after 9:30 PM? Really? If am well, I wouldn't have asked you to get his food! Thanks for putting D as your last priority. I've no regrets doing what I do.

wordmyth (Dec 26 4:21 PM):‎ Even after taking Motrin and sleeping in my bed for almost half the day, his fever continues to linger at 101.9; should I send you the photo?

Robert Lin (Dec 26 4:24 PM):‎ You are assuming a lot. He is always my first priority under the circumstance. If I can not take him to Dr. {W}ang this afternoon , why do you think I can get him soup this afternoon ? You have done a lot of damage regardless the consequence. You are home, take him to Dr. {W}ang and get him soup. {i}nstead of giving me all the threats and damage{.} Be a mother or wife for one afternoon.
 
wordmyth (Dec 26 4:32 PM):‎ Have you been reading my text or do you also need a fucking translator to explain English to you? Am becoming severely unwell myself, and even with Motrin and a few other meds, getting in the car and driving both of us to Dr. Wang and Genroku to get his requested food is somewhat dangerous in my condition, don't you think [or do you use that brain of yours at all?] Photo has been sent to your emails. It's 101.9, jerk.

 
























wordmyth (Dec 26 4:36 PM):‎ And I've been a mother and wife for the last 16 years, perhaps not your kind of slavery and happy-go-lucky and brainless wife you're looking for. But a real wife any male man enough to want, can afford to keep, and confident enough to partner with.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 4:38 PM):‎ 101.9{?} {t}errible job as a stay home mom. Call a taxi, if you need to{.}

wordmyth (Dec 26 4:42 PM):‎ Yeah, like you do such a terrible job earning a decent income for supporting the family you claimed you wanted. Check your fucking emails for the photo. Call a taxi, with what money or credit card? Should I use another man's fund to pay for your child's basic and medical care? Okay. Thanks, we'll be submitting this thread as evidence of your callousness toward your child to family court. Rest well, jerk.

wordmyth (Dec 26 4:47 PM):‎ I'm going to dress, get into the car, drive to get D both his meds and the food he requested; you'd better prayed that an accident will not happen to me that resulted in D being left alone in his condition ... Unbelievable how selfish and stupid you are.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 4:50 PM): Money is there, taxi is available. Risk your and child safety, what a mother you are.

wordmyth (Dec 26 4:52 PM): No money, no credit card, no debit card. No cash. They all went toward family maintenance and food. Documentations are there. See you, jerk and father-of-the-year.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 4:55 PM): $340 has been there for few days now even made twice. Even D know money has been there.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 9:29 PM): Got the soup. Heading home.

wordmyth (Dec 26 9:34 PM): However.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 10:15 PM): You lock me out again when will you guys back? {20} more mins, I will leave. And, my hotel expense will be out from your share. The door bell you damage will be replaced at your cost. Soup ordered from {Grunogue} will charge to you since you wasted.

Robert Lin (Dec 26 10:46 PM): You risk our son's health and go out at this cold weather in order to lock me out? I will assume your sickness and his sickness are just fake. I will not schedule appointment with Dr. Wang for Dominicq tomorrow{ .} [My first impression on reading this was, What an idiotic and selfish bastard ... ]

Robert Lin (Dec 27 5:50 PM): Did you ask Dominicq not to open the door for me?

Robert Lin (Dec 27 7:02 PM): D told me he never asked for the soup. Try to set me up for unfit parent? Last night, you guys were home and lock me out without opening the door for me in the freezing weather. Associated cost will deduct from your share.

wordmyth (Dec 27 10:41 PM):‎ Why should I try to set you up as an unfit parent when you have been doing exceptionally well sans my assistance during the past fourteen years? From your refusal to get his medicine when he was only a few months old to now when you badmouth his mother behind her back, you've crossed the boundaries from selfish "parenting" to blatant sabotage of whatever relationship that may have developed between you and D. Congratulations! Didn't I tell you that D slept away most of his day? I had to wake him up for his meds, and when I did, he barely asked for mustard green soup from Genroku before falling back into semi-conscious state. His temperature was 101.9 degrees, for heaven's sake. And just because he doesn't have a fever today doesn't mean he didn't have one yesterday. You think I would allow my only child to continue suffering from a high fever just to prove to you how sick he's been? What are meds for? You want D to become brain-damaged from high fever like you are brain-damaged from whatever? Some kind of parent you are; for that matter, your role models are severely lacking in proper parenting. Pimping, definitely; parenting, definitely not.
   
Robert Lin (Dec 27 10:54 PM):‎ Second night in a row you lock me out. Ok{ay}, you are on your own of your share of expense .
   
wordmyth (Dec 27 10:55 PM):‎ From taking care of D, I myself contracted whatever it is he has, just in more severe form for having had to venture outside in the 20s-degree-cold-weather to buy his food. All thanks to your selfishness and callousness. But, don't worry, I'll get better soon with all the homemade congeal and hot tea I'm forcing down my throat; wouldn't want you to miss all your chances at having your ballroom ego stoked by your adoring and brainless cohorts ... Bye-bye, entertainer-n-gigolo-n-thief-n-scholar-in-pretender. Do that so we can get the legal team working against you quicker at your expenses. Please provide us with a reason.
   
wordmyth (Dec 27 11:02 PM):‎ Since you're not so smart nor strategic, may I suggest you get a smart attorney to advise you; otherwise, you might ended up hanging yourself, if you haven't already.
  
Robert Lin (Dec 27 11:13 PM):‎ Last night, I slept outside of parking lot with sub zero temperature while you locking me out with the house I pay for. You sleep nicely inside the house and still complaining. No more. You will take care the expense of this house from now on as you have been locking me out.

wordmyth (Dec 27 11:18 PM):‎ Excellent! Now, we can actually put this blackhole-of-a-home on the market to sell. So, you lied about the hotel room expenses in your previous text? Shame on you! [Shame on me, too, for almost believing you. Never ever believe a habitual liar and cheater—lesson uno numero.] My advice to you still stand, with one caveat: get an attorney to whom you can tell the whole truth and not version of the truth so s/he can advise you to your benefits. Perhaps, that's the reason why you don't want the legal system and attorneys involved--you cannot afford to out the whole truth, backed by supporting documentations and not just your whining and crocodile tears.
   
Robert Lin ( Dec 27 11:23 PM):‎ Tried to save few dollars to support the house you lock me out with. No more. Nice hotel tonight and after. If no money left, too bad. You cause{d} it.
   
wordmyth (Dec 27 11:26 PM): So, you were lying and you're lying still. What else is new? New wristwatch, new woolen cap [no winter cap for your only child, huh?] Just shopping for yourself? You're going to have to do better than {that} in front of the legal system; this is not Taiwan, you see. Want to claim something, better be able to document it and prove it. Simply whining and bitching is never good enough—well, maybe for your brainless followers that you can woo with promises of good dancing.

Robert Lin (Dec 28 12:10 AM): Friday pay check your share straight to the hotel room due to you locking me out. Good night.

wordmyth (Dec 28 12:14 AM:‎ G'nite! Thanks for providing the action we were looking for to initiate legal actions against you. ... Sweet dreams.

How many accounts do you have?

Question for the readers out there:  How many accounts [not financial instruments for investment purposes] would a "normal" person have?  My guess is between two to five.  Yet my spouse has [or had at one time] an upward of 38 accounts under his SSN and multiple AKAs.  Wish I can detail some of the intricacy here but alas am not allowed to.

Every single day, we are discovering something new about my spouse that either peels away a layer of what he claims himself to be or contradicts what he himself had told me and / or our fourteen-year-old son.  Just who the hell is this creature and exactly how many masks has he?

My spouse's multiple AKAs

Would you not become suspicious and scare that your spouse [might] have been engaging in illegal activities [behind your back] had you stumbled across the multiple AKAs [also known as] along with three different dates of birth that he uses to identify himself to the authorities?  Why go through such effort unless one was / is involved in some kind of scam?

To whom did I marry and into what did I get myself into?

What's the best tag for these types of action?

If my cleaning up, stumbling across, sorting through, organizing, and documenting—online—recently discovered facts and supporting documents about who and what my spouse is and has done unbeknown to me and our son is labeled an "illegal" act, then how should I tag his taking my mail, hiding them among his things in his "private space" until the deadline for my response is passed, or retrieving and saving and / or printing out my written correspondence from my computer system before systematically deleting them so no trace and evidence of my "contributions" to his career, his businesses, and our businesses can be claimed by me in the court of law?

Deception

Needless to say, in the past three months I have had to learn a lot about deception and its modus operandi—concealment and falsification—from the conduct of my spouse in our marriage of sixteen years.  I shall look forward to delineating and publishing each and every one of the instances on the blog upon completion of the legal process am currently embroiled in.

Has transparency ever been the name of this marriage?

That's the question that's been running through my mind these past three months of discovering what precisely happened during these past 16 years and to whom exactly did I marry?

Nov 08 11:22 AM
12146367393:Would be a lie that don{'}t think about you smile, your pinch on my nipple (yes you only do my right side) and your creativities (not your writing yet, to{o} hard for me). {Y}et, my life has not been cared, or loved the way {I} craving the most. you threaten me , blame on me, investigate me.

Nov 08 11:27 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:For real? U're going to duck ur head like an ostrich{e} & pretend u didn't read a word I wrote in the hope that the issues will resolve themselves? When the bad memories outlive the good, it's time to call things off & move forward on ur own. I'd like to be sentimental & emotional like the Korean characters I see in Korean movies but fact is, I have to be practical for D's sake. His life & future depends on my not making a mistake & misstepping.

Nov 08 11:27 AM
12146367393:Be honest, all {i} want now is just eat on time and sleep on a quiet place. Trouble free away from anybody, especially you.

Nov 08 11:29 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Then divorce is a choice u should seriously consider.

Nov 08 11:42 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I live & conduct my life very simply: I do what I must regardless of personal likes, wants, & desires, especially when it's for the present stability & future progress & prosperity of the family & the people I care about. I lay everything out on the table so what u see is what u get, & I expect the same. I also expect continuous improvement of myself, my skills, my learning, & those of the people I care enough about to associate w/. Perhaps that's not exciting but it makes for a very consistent & transparent foundation for trust, which is fundamental in all kinds of relationships, except the dishonest ones. Like I said, let me know ur decision & commitment to either one course of action or the other. I'd like for things to settle before the weekend. There are people, job offers, course of studies I have to commit to, word- & resource-wise, as am sure u have the same.

Nov 08 12:04 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I need a definitive answer / reply from u. Silence is never an answer.

Nov 08 12:14 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:by the way, UNT of Dallas is seeking adjunct instructors in Business - Information Systems and Technology. It was just posted, & positions are available until filled. Good luck.

Nov 08 6:37 PM
12146367393:Tofu soup for D?

Nov 08 6:59 PM
12146367393:UNT position, you help me apply, I sign contract w you for 50% for ANY income i received from UNT, in addition to just that course.

Nov 09 11:53 AM
Phandeluys A. Truong:My commitments? What would they be? I've asked & u've yet to respond. The same evasiveness w/ ur questions that u were supposedly to ask me but never had. Using credit card charges additional service fees; am fine with credit cards, too. It's u who's bitching about the costs & want to save on the legal fees as much as possible. Like I said, tried living inside a relationship first before getting all envious. Besides, what do I care about other people & their enviousness & jealousies? Such a waste of emotions & time.

Nov 09 12:03 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:U don't answer my questions directly; u don't have legitimate questions that u can ask of me; u want divorce but fear the fallouts; u want to keep rehashing the past in la-la land about what-ifs, what-shoulds? How about you should have read my letter about lifetime partnership; how about you should have told me to keep my career & delay having a family because financially you can't hack it; how about you should have told me there will not be private education for our only son because u & ur family don't think it's necessary & will not spend ur money on it? Let's drag the past up shall we & play the blame game ... divorce or move forward w/o rehashing the past, yes or no. U want to claim silence as ur alibi, then later on blame me [& excuse urself from having to make any decision] about this relationship & why ur life turns out the way it will be? Be my guest in playing the excusitis game. Ensure u can take it like a man & not some woman street vendor when facing the legal & justice systems, & ur community.

Nov 09 12:10 PM
12146367393:I should have in charge of budget and finance since you are good at others.

Nov 09 12:10 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:I need that answer to my question. U can play the limbo-game w/ someone else. What exactly does "in charge" entails? In details.

Nov 09 12:12 PM
12146367393:tell me how you going to treat me better and get along with my parents{ }?

Nov 09 12:13 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:That's ur part to detail since u've been accusing me of not understanding ur needs. Hello? I don't cover both my needs & requirements, and be expected to detail urs? How convenient [lazy, too] of u.

Nov 09 12:16 PM
12146367393:sleep on sofa, no food, no bedroom, no shower. that is your way of treating your husband.

Nov 09 12:18 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Oh, that's what u want? I thought that's what we're working on? Still rehashing what were, from ur own decision? No one prevents u from taking showers for five days straight; it's been like that w/ u for the past 16 years. {E}ven I have to ask that u change into a new underwear after taking shower, instead of turning the old one out & re-wearing it. Who does that?

Nov 09 12:21 PM
12146367393:have asked, if you want to file the divorce , you can pay for the whole fee. have asked you watch the spending, insufficient fund again.

Nov 09 12:22 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Who in the world peed into the sink that is used for brushing teeth & washing faces? Especially w/ a toilet right next to the sink? Okay. So we agreed on the divorce, correct. No {harp}ings back and forth, correct? {o}r discussion & hashing. I repeat: We are in agreement about the divorce, correct? There will not be any more discussions, rehashing of any issues, correct?

Nov 09 12:25 PM
12146367393:another $283 {C}ostco? No money left at all with $30 penalty{ }?Do {I} have to cancel Costco too?

Nov 09 12:26 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Yes, family living needs to be maintained. U can spend $300 {i}n Costco, & I can't? I did ask for a listing of all mandatory bills; did u produce or keep on delaying {in order to keep me in the dark?} Tried cancelling Costco & we'll see what happen.

Nov 09 12:27 PM
12146367393:you want the divorce , you file it.

Nov 09 12:28 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:That's not what I asked. Answer my question or are u too afraid of the fallouts? Are we in agreement about the divorce? Yes or no. Playing dead again, are u? The legal system will really crush u for wasting its time & resources.

Nov 09 12:36 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:The same question that was posed to u thru text messages via my email, my phone, & to ur emails at work, & at Yahoo! & u choose to ignore them all. Okay, continue playing dead; I'll inform my handler & the agencies.

Nov 09 12:52 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Trying to pin this whole breakup to my financial mismanagement will not work, either, not when the forensic accountants see how u manipulated ur multiple accounts from various banks, here in the States & abroad. Good luck w/ ur in-limbo games. And not just since 1999 w/ ur paycheck from AAFES but way back to 1992 when u shared an account w/ a Lisa Velez. We're still trying to track her down for a little chitchat.

Nov 09 12:56 PM
12146367393:negative balance, any charges includes just a burger will cost additional fee of $30 in debt.

Nov 09 12:58 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Looked at when I verified the account before buying D. his burger, SoB. If u have a payment in placed, u should have informed me. That's management. Oh, I forgot, u failed that course, didn't u?

Nov 09 1:06 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Oh, by the way, am scheduled to meet w/ the District attorney to discuss "our" situation. Would u want to tag along?

Nov 09 1:09 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Filing divorce to qualify for aid? Wow! U're fucking naive & delusional. What's the purpose of cleaning? So what's the purpose of divorcing? Only someone as perverted as u [& out of touch w/ reality] would think to use divorce in such a way.

Nov 09 1:11 PM
12146367393:you knew you have spent too much money at Costco and should watch out spending when below balance of $500. I did inform you our account is low. {Y}ou want to hurt our finance this way, at least do not spent into my half.

Nov 09 1:12 PM

Phandeluys A. Truong:Look at when the check was written, dickhead. Also, where was my half of the interpretation fees that Anna paid u? And all this time, u're bitching about Stella's $300. So petty in the brains & {in} the heart. Is that typical of ur Taiwanese culture? U want to talk about halves? Shall we revisit international students recruitment, COSUSA, & several other fees u denied me while we were supposed to be in them {partnering in the businesses} together?

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Nov 09 1:36 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:A liar & a thief should have never been placed in the Audit Directory of a semi-government institution.
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Nov 09 7:25 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:Also, please stop bullshitting D w/ ur self-deluded tales about getting any white woman out there; we both know [& D suspected as much] that no decent & self-respecting woman will ever want to be w/ u if she sees, knows the real u, or unless she was tricked. This grand delusion of urs does D's sense of self-esteem no good, so cut the bullshits. Just because some woman is willing to exchange sex for ur dancing lead does not equal to u being all that desirable. Do learn how to read a woman, & not from ur parents, who hid the facts of life from u until u were in college; nor from ur first girlfriend, who duped u into thinking she was a virgin & u were her first lover. Don't pass ur unsophistication on to D, please, or u'll wreck his {future} romantic life.

Let's default on our home mortgage to pay for dancesport-related fees ...

Had I not set about cleaning up, sanitizing, sorting, and organizing the garage and my spouse's squalid living spaces, I would still have been left in the dark about his application for a second mortgage loan in 2006; his serious default on our mortgage payments in 2007—which unbeknown to me went towards our competitive ballroom training lessons and fees—resulting in repayment plan that stretched our planned budget beyond a breathing room.  [I suppose my spouse would consider not having the resources to pay for dancesport lessons and competitive registration and related fees a real emergency and a hardship; like an addict to drugs, he'll do almost anything to be centered and spotlighted on the ballroom dancing and dancesport performance stage.]

Merry Christmas!

This Christmas Day and throughout the years, I wish for you everything that you want, along with invigorating health, profound peace, and the care, guidance, support, counsel, and companionship of people you hold dear. 

May you live gracefully, prosperously, and happily!

Were we or weren't we?

I guessed we weren't that strapped for money or else cashing these checks was way beneath my spouse's vision of himself or was this another way of saving and budgeting? ... Just a sample, not the complete lot.

My tuition or something else?

I'll just let family court sift through the stack of monthly credit card statements from Mrs. Quiwen Phillips [alongside monthly statements from my spouse's checking and savings accounts] to see if there is any truth to my spouse's claim that his borrowing was for my school tuition. 

And here I was feeling guilty over the words of a habitual liar and cheater.  Got to give my in-laws much credits in modeling and raising such a "poster boy" of a devoted and honest "family man."