12146367393:I am not your enemy and we have a son together. Whatever we do, please put D {and} his future as the first priority. We can either save as much money {as} possible for his future or waste all of them in the ridiculous legal law suit, the choice is clear. Until right now, after been locked out by you and all your illegal posting, I am still making all the payments for you and D. Please do not force my hand.
A "ridiculous law suit"—to whose eyes? The offender or the defender? I am simply seeking justice and legal recourse from all the acts of deception and defamation—criminal and civil—my spouse has been engaging in during the last 16 years against me and our son.
Do I have another option other than to change the locks when after repeatedly asking / begging my spouse to clean up his filthy living space that has been accumulating dirt, dust, rotten food, moldy drinks, stinks, and bacteria [and polluting other living areas]; and when he keeps on delaying, starting with days then weeks, months, and years until our son suffers severely from allergy with sources originating inside the house and the cornea of my right eye becomes permanently scarred from bacteria [or he cleans up the Chang-Lin style, which is dumping everything into trash bags and moving them into another room or living space]; even after I began the cleanup and sanitizing [and the start of my discovery of who my spouse truly is and what this marriage has been all these years], what does he do: threatens to take my beloved books [boxed in plastic bins—yes, we "saved" so much that there's barely any money left to afford second-hand bookshelves] and the camera that he "gifted" me; threatens me with legal suit [which amounts to nothing], tempts me and our son with financial "gifts" and bribery—and when those didn't work, my spouse went back to the only "negotiating" tool he knows [and was taught to him by his father]—financial choke holds. Threats to me, I can calmly deal with; threats to our son—verbally, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and financially, I will not tolerate.
In my posting, Quid pro quo? I think not [Dec 29], I laid out and hinted at the conditions on which I will allow my spouse to re-access our home; not once has my spouse apologized for his threats, let alone be willing to peacefully discuss the stipulations and / or prerequisites for a harmonious family life [with a minimum baseline for our emotional, psychological, mental, physical, and fiscal health and well-being]. Thus far, my spouse has only to mandate that he be "in charge" of all financial matters. I don't think this is discussion and compromising; do you, readers? More than highly likely is that my spouse enjoys the separate living arrangement of a "single man"—affordable with all the tax-free money he earns from ballroom dancing gigs but is afraid to boast for fear of legal repercussions and the shatter of the "family man" illusion / act he had worked so hard these many years to paint in deceiving others. So that's where I come in: by accusing me of locking him out, he earns himself [or so he thinks and boasts to those unenlightened minds that he surrounds himself with] the "moral justification" to pursue the lifestyle he calls "The American Dream"—unfettered sexual exploits; designer-labels spending; fine dining at the latest, hip-to-be-seen-at restaurants, bars, and clubs ... . Behind that mask of "family man," my spouse is just another Asian playboy wannabe whose inclinations were clipped by ambitious yet dull, boring, and extremely frugal parents ... Let us now watch how this creature f___s up his life [and those of me and my son's] in his "midlife crisis."
My spouse's claims to "still making all the payments" for me and our son? Here's the reality [just a sampling]:
I guess our son is never too young to start paying his own bills ... Question is what would it take for a patient of a minor age—and not the insurance policy owner—to be designated the responsible party? I have always heard that the villager mentality regarding the care-taking and nurturance of children can be summarized in providing a child with "a bowl of rice and a pair of chopsticks"—I never thought I would see it in action, certainly not from a front-row seat. [Of course, my spouse will deny ever seeing this bill, just like he and his mother never saw her hospital bill from Norman Regional Hospital when she was visiting us back in 1997.]
Jan 22 12:48 PM
146367393:Please either text me through your phone or email me to my personal yahoo account. I will not accept or answer any more communication to AAFES email or text from your email to my phone. AAFES email will block your email from this point on. I think text is between two cell phones. You want the privacy and not being text all the time, so do I. If is emergency, you can either call or text me through a cell phone.
Jan 22 5:36 PM
Phandeluys A. Truong:You forced my hands with all your duplicities when we first met, which continue throughout the duration of this marriage. You've been my hidden enemy, stealing whatever you could from my mother, D, and me in whatever ways you dreamt of. That's how I am treating you and how I want the various agencies to treat you and yours. Before all this began, I gave you and us three chances to come clean and to put things on the table for the purposes of compromising and possible reconciliation of the marriage; you kept dallying and lying and cheating. What is happening now is the result of your motivations, actions, and / or lack of actions. Don't blame me. Making all the payments? You should since you're the only breadwinner here. Am the one who wants to sell the house for a down-gradable and affordable one; you want to keep the house, pay for it, along with its maintenance / upkeep. Good that AAFES has found its way to block my email; something so simple yet has taken so long to execute. Whether you keep up with your family and D or not is your problem, not mine. I only have text and email for record-keeping purposes—we know your tendency to deny and lie too well to try and communicate with you in other manner. And even when we find an acceptable way for me to record a conversation between you and me, am sure you'll accuse me of dubbing someone else's voice as your own ... Your parents taught you exceptionally well in the arts of lying, cheating, manipulating, sucking-up-to, and acting / pretending—Academy Award caliber, actually. If I didn't put D's future, which you and {your} ass-of-a-mother stole from him, as a priority, I'd not stayed with you for these 15 years, nor put everything I had into your career, side businesses, and online academic teaching jobs, jerk. So, do the worst that you can against us.
More likely that the jerk saw the bills and didn't open the envelopes, hoping that they'll disappear if he ignores them long enough. What's odd is your mother-in-law's hospital bill--assuming that she was visiting and not residing with you permanently at the time of her hospital stay in Oklahoma, shouldn't her bill been fully paid for at the time of her discharge, unless your jerk-of-a-spouse and his mother had intended all along to swindle the hospital out of its payment?
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